In my latest post I talk about grades. My husband & I have decided to completely stop stressing about our middle child’s grades because of the school system’s practices. Our children are given assessments, tests & quizzes so often that we all of us were overwhelmed with trying to keep up. Between the emails, conferences, Class Dojo posts, notes home & verbal communication, we were spent. The grades at school weren’t lining up with the benchmarks & the homework wasn’t matching what they were doing in class. It was like a circus. Well, more like a magic show with sleight of hand. We’ll say this, but do that & all the while you don’t know what’s going on until, boom! The year is over & your kid ends up where the school says & there’s no proof to use to come to bat for them because the bulk of the papers sent home aren’t part of their grade. Anyway, since we’ve taken the “not gonna worry about it” philosophy, some interesting things have happened. Instead of grounding, withholding and fussing because of the letter grade, we’re focusing on him LEARNING. That means looking for improvement in UNDERSTANDING as opposed to grades. He may get a concept a week after the test, but dang it, HE GOT IT! So now we’re doing more discussing, encouraging & supporting. Even if he doesn’t understand, it’s ok. He made an EFFORT! He has his own old school learning style (repetition & hands on, but an avid reader but not great on writing descriptively) & I’m seeing observations from his teachers, but very little modification of teaching style to meet him where he is like old school teachers did. Anyway, I don’t want to spoil the video, so just check it out. Leave me a comment & tell me if you’ve experienced something like this & how you are dealing with it.