Monday Mom Tip

Build connections.

This is every Mom’s safety net.  You need a team, sweetie!  A big one.  Well, the more hats you wear, the bigger your team should be.  Of course you need your medical team (dentist, OBGYN, family doc, eye doc, whatever other docs you need), but do you think about your life team?  Your business needs a mentor, if you have child then you need a Mom team.  Then there’s work.  Do you have people who you can consult about your career (not those people you just hang out with or gossip with) but ones who can actually help you navigate?  Don’t forget marriage, finance, and don’t forget to put some people in there that help you unplug and have fun!

If you’re really thinking hard now, be sure that your spouse is on that team.  But if your spouse is in multiple areas of that list, be careful.  You don’t want to put a strain on that person by them becoming your everything.

Also, be sure you have different types of personalities for each category.  For instance, my business mentors have really different personalities:  no nonsense (a bottom line thinker)-my husband; the fire-Ms. Mua (a top notch accountability partner who keeps me moving and doesn’t tolerate excuses); the ice-Ms. Legacy (she’s calm and cool and is a big thinker who always helps me to focus and think).  I call all 3 and then end up with a well rounded view of my situation.  But in everything, I seek God first.  Ok, sometimes I pick up the phone first-no point in lying!  But I know His voice when I hear it and then I always know which direction to take.

Make sure you identify those people on your team.  If some changes need to be made, don’t be afraid to reach out and embrace new ones.  Remember, teams were made to accomplish, inspire, hold up each other and grow each other.  Identify and grow your team and see your life change for the better.

Until next time,

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